….or not. Ha! Lately I keep seeing all of these blog posts floating around social media about being a stay at home mom (SAHM) or being a working mom but what about BOTH!?
When people find out what I do I usually get one of two responses. The first- “wow, how do manage that!? Being a SAHM of 4 and running a business?! That’s a lot!” (to the two of you that have said this to me, thank you…no seriously, thank you). The rest of the world comments on how lucky I am. I’ll hear something like ” You’re so lucky you get to have a job and not leave your kids all day.” or “It must be so nice to be able to get stuff done around the house while you’re at ‘work’.” I could sit here and write about how hard it is to be a work at home mom. I could also sit here and write about how amazing it is to be a WAHM. Both are true.
Is it hard to be interrupted all day long…every time I try to get anything done for work? yes. The short amount of uninterrupted time definitely makes it hard to get stuff done. Is it hard to sit down to work for an hour only to get up for a “break” to make lunch, switch the laundry, clean up from lunch, and vacuum up all the hair the dog has decided to shed since that last time I vacuumed…this morning (don’t get me started on the dog). Then get back to work for an hour or so before the older kids that come off the bus and it’s time for homework, dinner, baths and bed time. If only bedtime meant the end of the day…after the kids are in bed it’s usually back to work for me! Lets face it the evening is the only uninterrupted time I have to REALLY be productive. Complain, complain, complain, poor me, poor me, poor me. Yup it’s hard.
Now that I’ve got all my complaining out let me tell you– I. am. blessed. I am blessed that God gave me these 4 little munchkins to care for. I’m blessed that He gave me the talent, passion and drive to build my own business. I am blessed that He gave me supportive husband who lets me pursue this dream.
I get to wake up in the morning, get the kids breakfast, pack their lunches, and send them off to school (although I’m notorious for forgetting half the stuff they need for school…gym shoes? library books? how am I supposed to remember this all!?). I get to wear sweatpants to work most of the time. I get to be here when the kids get off the bus or more importantly when they are too sick to get on the bus.
Today there’s a snow day….all the kids and their friends are home. While I’m working there’s tons of laughter, dancing and playing…and don’t forget mess making. Between working I have been dressing everyone to play in the snow, getting everyone undressed and warmed up from playing in the snow, drying all their gear, making everyone lunch, cleaning up after their lunch and now sitting back down for some more work and guess what…I wouldn’t change it for the world.
I guess the point I’m trying to make is that we can read blog after blog on how hard it is to be a working mom, a stay at home mom, or a work at home mom…the fact of the matter is being a mom is hard but at the end of the day when you get a great big hug or hear a big belly laugh, no matter what kind of mom you are, it’s all worth it.
I have to leave you with one last thing. This if for those of you that think I’ve got it together. I get e-mails from other photographers, moms and business women asking me how I balance it all. The answer is I don’t. The laundry’s never done, the house is never clean and the work is never done. Learn to enjoy the small victories and you’ll do just fine!